Progress Not Perfection
So as I sit here on an overcast and chilly Sunday morning enjoying my iced coffee (because yes, I am still totally basic), I had a conversation with a friend and it was liberating.
Fear is such an interesting emotion. I say this because there are a multitude of ways that fear creeps or invades our lives. It does just that, it can slowly leach into your daily existence or hit you like a ton of bricks. It can be years and years of negative self talk dictating your worth (or what it wants to convince you is a lack there of), or fear can paralyze your entire being when faced with something such as standing at the edge of a plane when you are about to jump out. But what if you can harness that powerful feeling and turn it into something good?
I am talking about looking at what you are afraid of (disclaimer: don’t put your life in jeopardy. I am talking more about fear of judgement and failure and less about petting deadly snakes.) During this conversation with Brooke, I realized that if I took all that energy away from being afraid and rather harnessed it toward something I loved that all of the sudden that negative oppression turned into liberation. I was over complicating (as I so often do) the situation and letting this fear paralyze me from being vulnerable and doing and exploring things I loved or wanted to try.
Now, trust me, I understand that I am not all of the sudden cured of self-doubt and being afraid of judgement, rather I now have reason to question why those feelings are invading a decision I am making. This doesn’t mean I will never be afraid again, rather it is a tool to use to rationalize why I am feeling that way. Don’t let fear keep you from trying new things and putting yourself out there. Don’t let perfection keep you from making progress. Each step forward is just that, and each pushback is a lesson in how to overcome.
The next time you are worried about what someone is going to think of that outfit, or what will happen if you share your truth, take a second to really analyze what the consequences might be. What is actually going to happen if you try? If you take that minute to think about it, and maybe even share with someone close you, you realize that what you are scared of is so minimal. You realize that not trying, not going for it, not shaking your booty to that song you like, is going to leave you with more regret than just doing it. If the risk is minimal and the reward can be so much more, there is no reason to be scared.
“Don’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game” - Hillary Duff in (one of the best movies ever, obvi) a Cinderella Story.